On Imperfection


Are You Afraid of Success?

By Jocelin Higgins

Have you ever felt like you are not good enough to make your dreams come true? Perhaps in your mind you’ve told yourself that you are worthy and that you really want to change your life in some way, but then this feeling of inadequacy creeps in and causes you to postpone or worst yet, not even attempt the things that you want to do.  Or, perhaps these limited beliefs may cause you to procrastinate doing these very activities that would allow you to get closer to your goal or dream. They infiltrate your mind like dark clouds move in to block out the sun.

You Are Not Alone

“Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.” Brené Brown

Such is my dilemma at times. When I  sit down and write, my thoughts can come in and talk me out of it. I will end up surfing the internet and getting distracted by other activities that are not related to my task at hand–writing. A practice that I love. Then, why is getting motivated to do it a chore at times?  The culprit is perfectionism.  This asinine belief system that people suffer from that can be a real drag to creativity and production. It says, “Why bother? No one will read it.” Or, “You don’t have what it takes to succeed.”  Well, I’ll tell you what…it is a load of BS! And, it is so important to ignore these messages and embrace your imperfection and that of others. Refuse to listen to the lies entering your mind that you are not good enough.

You Are Good Enough

It may sound like a silly Stuart Smalley quote (If you remember him) but, it is the truth. It is completely acceptable to be imperfect! It is totally okay to be in a state of constant learning. In fact, this is a wonderful attitude to possess. It’s never too late to learn something and it’s never too late in life to be successful! It is your right to be able to work toward your dreams and you can be your best friend and coach at any age, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity or nationality! It’s in the comparing with others that causes us to lose hope. You are unique and you are the ONLY  YOU in this world, on this plane of existence, so honor being special and embrace your imperfections.  Then, let it push you toward excellence instead of perfectionism.

Discovering the Law of Attraction

Once upon a time, well, a few years ago…I learned about this metaphysical law called, The Law of Attraction.  It’s not some dating technique, although you could apply it to that.  The name was originally coined by Prentice Mulford back in 1891 and he began using it in his essays on the effects of thoughts on health.  It’s a belief system based on the principle that we live in an energetic world and our thoughts are catalysts for creation on an energetic level. Thought precedes action!

Law of Attraction

Manifesting Butterflies

A Simple Explanation

So, in simple terms, if one dwells on positive thoughts of what one wants to create in one’s life, these are more likely to happen then allowing negative thoughts of lack or failure to penetrate one’s mind. It puts the responsibility of the person having and controlling the thoughts rather that on external influences. It resonates with me because I began to realize that I have more responsibility for the reality of what exists in my life. Therefore, I strive to meditate on the goodness and wonder of all I want to enter into my realm of consciousness and existence.

How to Learn More

An excellent book to get started learning about this is called, The Law of Attraction: the Basics of the Teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks or another favorite of theirs that I refer to,  Ask and it is Given.  Esther also travels often, so you can go and see them live by checking their workshop schedule. Additionally, I have recently come across a couple of books by a witty and entertaining writer named Pam Grout. She strives to “prove” that The Law of Attraction exists and works by giving the reader a series of “experiments” to try on your own in order to see its work in action!  Her first book is called, E-Squared and the second one is titled, E- Cubed.  I’ve written a more in-depth review of the E- Cubed so stay tuned for that here on Feel Better Wellness.

Why Learn About The Law of Attraction?

My biggest take away from knowing about The Law of Attraction and applying it to my life is that I learned that I DO have the POWER to impact my life in ways that allow me to dream big and believe that I can accomplish whatever I set my mind on doing, regardless of my previous limiting belief programming, feelings of inadequacy or that nasty need to be perfect before I attempt something at all. Whew!

So, I encourage you to test the waters and see what you find! Be imperfect. Be vulnerable. Put yourself out there and embrace change. Dream big! Strive to reach these dream. Know that you will be accepted by the people who matter most. Believing in yourself is a liberating thing and when you stoke the fire of passion and momentum, so many absolutely wonderful events are bound to come of it! Keep your thoughts on what you want and monitor them often and before you know it, you are accomplishing so much more that you imagined.

I’d love to hear about your dreams or your manifestations or anything that you like to share. If you comment below, I promise to respond.  Aho!

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Natural Cures Instead of Pills?


Want to Join the Natural Cures Movement?

What is the Natural Cures Movement?

by Jocelin Higgins

Because I’m interested in feeling better holistically, I came across this really fascinating free online event that ran from October 6th to October 16th, 2014. It’s available now to listen to any time by downloading in MP3 format. It’s called The Natural Cures Movement (Or, Summit). It’s an opportunity to listen to holistic health care experts share their wisdom regarding many ailments that can be treated via natural methods instead of resorting to expensive pills that can have terrible side effects. I quickly signed up to check it out and learn some new tips on how to be healthier–I’m really looking forward to it!

I did some research for you so you could find out more about it first. I’ll also give more background information on who is hosting it and the Read on….

Natural Cures

Join for FREE here: http://bit.ly/1CJ4cGG

Who is the Host?

It’s hosted by Dr. Josh Axe, of DrAxe.com, an expert in natural and sports medicine. According to the e-book that he cowrote with nutritionist, Cynthia Pasquella, called “Go Naked Cookbook“, he loves to prepare raw foods as well. This cookbook gives you free recipes just by joining the online natural health summit. He has also written three books: The Real Food Diet Cookbook, Superfood Super You, and most recently, The Secret Detox. Additionally, he also founded BurstFIT,  or BurstFitFIRE are interval training workouts for rapid fat-loss and he traveled to London with the 2012 U.S. Olympic swim team as a physician.

So, Who Are These Other Holistic Health Experts?

Dr. Axe has brought together all of these doctors, naturopaths, nutritionists and many others that entails an amazing line up of over thirty professional holistic health advisors in this summit. Some are here to guide you to feel better with natural remedies for your emotional and mental wellness. Others are here to help you get more relief from thyroid disease, autoimmune disorders, leaky gut, Infertility, Lyme or heart disease. Many more focus on detoxification and how to switch to a raw foods diet or overall better nutrition to feel better more often. They will show you which foods assist in preventing cancer or allow for regular balancing of your hormones. I learned so much from it!

Find Out Who is Speaking and When:

Really, the list of resources here is so vast. Most days include four speakers. You can easily listen while you are driving to work, playing in the garden, cleaning house or cooking. You can also order the entire event recorded so that you can listen to them anytime as well as many times over. I find this extremely useful because I like to remind myself of what I need to do and how to change an unhealthy habit into one that will make me feel better and be healthier. If you want to check out the whole program go here! You also get some FREE recorded talks JUST for joining!

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